As you prepare to end your marriage with your spouse, you may feel relieved or relaxed. However, at the same time, your children may show signs of nervousness or stress.
Being able to handle their emotions and help them deal with the changes is important.
Reduce your negativity
According to Psychology Today, it can be easy to slip into a negative mindset when it comes to your ex-spouse. You may find yourself wanting to complain about them out loud in front of your children, but you should take care to stay positive to avoid adding to your children’s stress.
This kind of complaining can also make children feel like they have to pick one parent or the other to defend.
Make and keep a schedule
The time after a divorce can include lots of new changes for younger members of the family, such as changing schools or houses. Throughout all this, they may feel overwhelmed at all the new tasks and places they need to get used to.
Too much change can leave children constantly on edge, which can make them struggle to stay focused in school or may cause them to develop unhealthy eating habits. Providing a regular schedule can help them relax and feel secure.
Allow for questions
In the months leading up to a divorce, your children may have questions about their future and their other parent. Some children may feel too afraid to ask them, while others may throw temper tantrums or act out in other negative ways.
By making sure to tell them that you are always there to answer questions and reassure them, you can make sure to provide a space for them to adjust to the divorce.