When marriages are heading for inevitable divorces, spouses often go to marriage counseling. According to Psychology Today, though, couples counseling has only mixed success when it comes to preventing divorce. After all, some divorces simply are not preventable.
If you have gone to couples counseling with your husband or wife, you may be sick of seeing therapists. Still, you probably should not give up on therapy altogether. Here are three signs you can benefit from seeing a divorce therapist.
1. You are struggling to make decisions
Divorce has the potential to cause anxiety and depression. Each of these can make it extremely difficult to make decisions. Because you need to make many decisions during your divorce, asking a therapist to help you deal with your anxiety and depression may be advisable.
2. You cannot cope with your emotions
It is perfectly normal and absolutely acceptable to be angry, sad or even ambivalent about your divorce. If you are struggling to cope with your emotions, though, you are likely also to struggle at work and in other aspects of your life. Put simply, there is no shame in seeking some emotional support from a divorce therapist.
3. You cannot parent effectively
Just as you are on a divorce-related emotional rollercoaster, your children also may be finding it difficult to cope with your divorce. To help them through it, you must be a strong and supportive parent. If you are having trouble parenting effectively, it is probably time to go to therapy.
Even though your divorce seems all-consuming at the moment, it will not last forever. Ultimately, by working with a divorce therapist, you can start the next chapter of your life in a mentally healthy place.
